Sponsoring a spouse can be a challenging and risky endeavor. While some people may struggle with trust, many Indigenous partners are dedicated to helping their loved ones succeed, often going to great lengths to ensure their partner’s progress, including supporting them in relocating overseas for a better future.
However, despite their best efforts, these situations can sometimes take a negative turn, leading to severe consequences for the helper. Despite their attempts to resolve the issues, it can be painful when the person they supported turns a deaf ear or forgets their efforts. This sense of betrayal and helplessness can be emotionally devastating.
Helping a partner through the grief of losing a loved one is particularly challenging. The feelings of inadequacy and guilt that arise from being unable to fix the situation can lead to defensiveness and a lack of support when it is most needed.
In Ghana, this has sparked significant debate about the merits of investing in a partner and what actions should be taken if such a situation arises. Ghanaians have shared diverse perspectives on the matter. One man remarked, “If my wife abandons me for a white man, she will not see another morning in the state—evil for evil.” In contrast, a woman expressed a more forgiving stance, saying, “I would let it slide but pray for divine justice. God can repay better.” Some Ghanaians suggested that they would not get involved, with the belief that men deserve punishment for their actions.
This situation reflects a broader trend where helping a spouse can sometimes feel like walking a dangerous path. The process of dealing with grief and loss varies greatly between individuals, with some choosing to cherish memories and others preferring to move on. These differing approaches can create friction, especially when one partner is trying to offer support.
Story by: Linda Yeboah
